Saturday, December 12, 2009
Monday, July 13, 2009
the wedding was in new orleans, and we went down there thursday night because the bridesmaids luncheon was friday morning. while i was hanging out with the girls, bo took morgan to the aquarium of the americas. bo said it was REALLY crowded, but, as luck would have it, they ran into my brother and nephews while they were there.
here's mo making a silly face!
and as for the new addition to our family, NO, it's not a baby! you may know that we got a kitten last summer. we named her tessa. she was such a cute kitten! we had her fixed and declawed and were content with just one pet. but she got really sick - and we had to have her put down. morgan still talks about tessa and has been asking for another kitten. well, bo's sister allison's cat got "knocked up" and had 7 kittens in may. we decided to get two this time, so they could play with each other during the day while we are gone.
we had planned to get a girl and a boy (so bo wouldn't be the only male in the house anymore!) and were going to name them lucy and desi. when the time came to get the kittens, the only 2 big enough to leave the momma were both girls. so we named them lucy and layla. we got them while morgan was out of town so we could suprise her when she got home. when we picked her up, we told her we had a suprise for her. she said "is it a hippopotumas?" bo and i both started laughing and said that a hippo was a little too big for the house. she said "no, i meant a stuffed one!" she went on to guess a few more things - shoes, baby doll, candy...but never guessed kittens.
so she was very suprised when we got home!
and i think the kittens were suprised too! morgan loves them, but i'm sure drives them crazy! she wants to be wherever they are and is constantly picking them up, moving them and sometimes dropping them. i know they are happy when we leave for work/school in the mornings!
morgan is out of town for this week :-( so maybe i'll have time for another post before she gets back!
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
i have always hated adultery, infidelity, cheating...whatever you want to call it. but before it happened to me, i never understood how it happens, why it happens and how devastating it is. i also didn't know that it can be prevented.
the reason i felt the need to write this post at this time is seeing several people in my life experience this pain in the last year. i never realized how widespread infidelity was.
once it has happened, you can recover from it - i do believe that. (see http://www.marraigebuilders.com/) but nothing in your life will ever be the same. i wish that no one would ever have to experience the pain that i, and so many others, have had to experience. and i wish that i was in a position to help people prevent it. this is my only platform to possibly help someone, so i'm gonna put what i know out there. if even one person somewhere is spared this terrible pain by putting my words into practice, i will feel successful. although i (and that person) may never know that an affair has been prevented, i still want to try.
you may be thinking this doesn't apply to you. but if you are married, or ever plan to be married it does. if you think "it can't happen to me" that is your first mistake. it may very well never happen to you, but you need to be aware that it can. on a side note, i really hate to use the phrase "happen to you" b/c it sounds like it's no one's fault. adultery doesn't just happen. it is a selfish, irresponsible action done by someone. a terrible pain inflicted on one's family.
so anyway, most everything i know about affairs and how they start and why they start can be found on http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ - it's defintely worth the time to check the site out and educate yourself...if i had only known then what i know now, i could have nipped it in the bud before it ever started! not that i would want to change the past or change where i am today, but for someone who may be able to prevent this heartache for themselves, that site is a must-read.
one of the primary ideas on MB is the idea of emotional needs and a love bank. according to dr. harley, everyone has a "love bank" for each person in their lives. when someone's love bank maintains a consistenly high level, it causes you to feel love for that person. and ideally, the love bank you have with your spouse will always have the highest balance of all of your love banks. but what usually happens in affair situations is that the spouse makes more withdrawals than deposits. this can happen over time when you start to neglect your spouse's needs. you get caught up in the demands of your career and your children. you don't take time to make your spouse feel special and loved. you assume your spouse knows you love him/her and understands that you are extremely busy. in short, you take your spouse for granted (or he/she takes you for granted). then along comes mr or miss "makes me feel important". this person doesn't have to worry about whether the kids are sick, making the mortgage payment on time, or why you still haven't fixed that leaky sink. this person makes plenty of deposits in your "love bank" b/c yall seem to have so much in common and he/she always makes you feel good. in turn, you make deposits into this person's love bank and over time, you both start to feel "love" for each other.
i think you can see where that scenario is going.
so, in order to prevent your spouse from being vulnerable to an affair, you need to keep the love bank full. the primary way to make deposits into someone's love bank is to do things that fulfill their top 3 (or so) emotional needs (EN). dr harley defines an emotional need as " a craving that, when satisfied, leaves you with a feeling of happiness and contentment, and, when unsatisfied, leaves you with a feeling of unhappiness and frustration. "
the 10 primary emotional needs that dr harley identifies are:
- sexual fulfillment
- recreational companionship
- honesty and openness
- physical attractiveness
- financial support
- domestic support
- family commitment
please follow this link http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3300_needs.html to find descriptions of these needs and how to meet these needs. you will also find a link to an emotional needs questionnaire which you can print out (2 copies) so you and your spouse can identify your top emotional needs and begin to make an effort to fulfill those.
in my opinion, this topic is important for all married people. bo and i are both very aware of each others needs and make an effort to fulfill them. it's not only for people whose marriages are in trouble. it's for anyone who is married, who wants to stay married and wants to be as happy as possible in their marriage.
good luck making your marriage as fulfilling as God intended it to be!
Friday, May 8, 2009
morgan's teacher (who we love!) helped the kids make mother's day cards. she asked them the following questions:
all about mom
1. what is mom's name? ashley
2. how old is mom? 28
3. what does daddy call mom? boo
4. what does mom do at work? get money
5. what do you and mom do for fun? go to wal mart
6. what do you want to say to mom on mother's day? "give me some food"
i think it will be a cute keepsake to remind me of this age...
they also made a cute little flower pot and gave us a packet of sunflower seeds. we'll see if anything grows!
Friday, April 10, 2009
another big change in our life has been losing weight. bo decided in november that he wanted to lose a few pounds. and of course i wanted to lose weight too, so i suggested we start weight watchers.
when we first started, i was hoping to lose about 5 pounds, which would get me back to my pre-pregnancy weight. (3 years after giving birth!) but it came off so easily i didn't want to quit there! as people started to notice my weight loss and my clothes all got too big, i got even more inspired. to date, i've lost 26 pounds and am wearing between a 4 and a 6. i'm extremely happy as i was in a 10 before we started.
one thing i didn't realize when i was overweight was how bad it made me feel. i always felt embarassed to meet new people or to see old friends. i was ashamed of how i looked. but i didn't really realize how much until i had lost the weight. thanks to my wonderful husband's support, i am now more confident and happier than ever before. every aspect of my life is better now. and while i still miss eating certain things from time to time, i get to enjoy my new body every day. every morning when i step on the scale, i am happy. when i get dressed i am reminded of how far i have come. no food has ever made me feel this good!
i do want to brag on my husband a little bit more. he is an amazing father to morgan. he loves her just as much as he would if she were biologically his child. i am very happy and proud when morgan says that she wants to marry her daddy bo. i am so glad that i am giving her a father figure that she can look to as an example when she looks for a mate. he loves and protects both of us and i hope that morgan will have extremely high standards when choosing a husband.
God has richly blessed my family and i wake up every day happy to be me!
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
so, what do you think?
april, morgan, me
Saturday, March 21, 2009
bo recently got a blackberry and he took some video of morgan playing. i don't know how to post video yet, but i did get a picture of bo showing morgan the video on his phone. i thought it was so sweet!
Saturday, February 14, 2009
ever since we met, he has always sent me 3 roses, b/c he says it means "i love you" and he always sends me pink too...
also on friday, morgan had her valentine's party at school...somewhere between 25 and 30 three and four year olds...mass chaos will always ensue...but the kids enjoy it!
morgan did a couple of crafts but her favorite part was decorating (and eating) a heart shaped cookie....
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
morgan has also changed a lot in the past 10 months...she's completely potty trained (which we were beginning to think might never happen!), she can count to 10 in spanish, and has recently figured out how to buckle herself into her carseat...she can't unbuckle herself yet, which is good or she would be all over the car! and she also has 3 boyfriends, at last count...she loves school and on weekends when i tell her school is closed she will ask "is it closed tight?" she always makes me laugh.
maybe i can post some new pictures of morgan this weekend....
Monday, January 19, 2009
here are some pictures of the festivities...
these are her 3 birthday balloons
her dora cake...
morgan with her daddy bo and momma just before her party
we love this girl, so expect to see many more pictures of her!!!